Monday, September 29, 2014

I Love: To my husband on our 30th anniversary



I love that when I put my head on your chest it makes me feel strong and calm.
I love that you still know how to make me laugh a really good belly laugh.
I love that you know how to make me cry.
I love that you know how to make me stop crying.
I love that you will grab my hand when we are out in public with out thinking.
I love how when you know when to rock me while holding me.
I love how you think I'm sexy when I'm cooking
I love that you think I'm sexy when I think I look my worst.
I love how you still cant keep your hands off of me
I love how your eyes light up when I'm talking about something that you never thought of. (and didn't really care about until I started talking about it.)
I love how you look at me when I'm painting.
I love how you don't have to think twice about telling some one to fuck off because you don't like the way they treat me or our family.
I love how you let me paint our house with color.
I love that you let me keep pets...lots and lots of pets...
I love that you like me to keep my hair long
I love that it really doesn't matter to you if I'm not a size 9 anymore
I love that you take care of my car for me because you know I like speed as much as you do.
I love that we don't agree on politics.
I love that you respect my spirituality even though its not the same as yours.
I love how you have given me everything I've ever needed even when it was something I didn't know I wanted.
I love that you will watch endless musicals and John Wayne movies over an over again.
I love that you keep a pool for me because I love water but not bath tubs.
I love that you know where all my laugh lines come from.
I love that I know where all of yours have come from.
I love that you keep a beard for me even though it makes your face itch.
I love your mustache rides.
I love that we keep different sleep schedules but can still coexist.
I love that you will antique shop with me
I love that you will go to book stores with me and head straight to the magazine section
I love that you appreciate my wide musical taste even if you don't appreciate all my music
I love that you hold me mostly responsible for how great our sons turned out as adults.
I love that we have a huge garden and that you will help me maintain it even though gardening isn't your thing.
I love that I would never have learned to ride a motorcycle if it wernt for you.
I love that we have grown up together.
I love that we have been young and young at heart together.
I love that I have seen so much of the world thanks to you.
I love that I am a braver more confident person thanks to you.
I love that life, everything, and everyone, in it is better because of your love.
Happy anniversary love of my life.
I love you.

"Being loved be someone gives you strength, while loving someone deeply gives you courage."
-Lao Tzu
 

Thursday, September 4, 2014

Im With Stupid

         





          What is it lately with all of these Facebook posts, and pics, that state, more or less, that stupid people should be shot, hit over the head with a two by four, tarred and feathered, ignored, pointed at in public and/or mocked openly, and generally mistreated, and abused?

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         This is just a short list of some of the pics that I have seen lately. Don't misunderstand. I'm not with out humor.  Some of it is funny!  ;)  But I think its getting a bit out of hand.  These posts are being used, in my opinion, by people who are well...stupid and can't see that by telling others of  stupidity that they are actually being perceived as ignorant.  Its all just...stupid. 
          Stupidity continues because we let it.  I have decided to not be one of the masses of mindless people that propagate ignorance.  I am here to shout, "STUPID PEOPLE OF THE WORLD UNITE!"  Or something to that extent anyways.  ;P 

stupid



[stoo-pid, styoo‐]
adjective, stupider, stupidest.
1.
lacking ordinary quickness and keenness of mind; dull.
2.
characterized by or proceeding from mental dullness; foolish; senseless:
a stupid question.
3.
tediously dull, especially due to lack of meaning or sense; inane; pointless:
a stupid party.
4.
annoying or irritating; troublesome:
Turn off that stupid radio.
5.
in a state of stupor; stupefied:
stupid from fatigue.
6.
Slang. excellent; terrific.
noun
7.
Informal. a stupid person.
 
          Telling someone they're stupid covers all kinds of controversy's.  Your stupid if you misuse comma's.  Your stupid if you don't understand a joke.  Your stupid if your uninformed about...anything really.  Your especially stupid if you think your informed and are misinformed.  Don't watch the news? You got it, stupid. Your stupid if you don't buy American.  Stupid if you only buy American.  Stupid if you own a gun, or don't own one.  Stupid if you voted for Obama.  Stupid if you didn't.  Stupid if your Republican, Democrat, Liberal, or anything else.  Your stupid if your not someone else's religion.  Others are stupid if they're not yours.  Everyone of any color is stupid if they're not the color of the person who says your stupid.  Over 21?  Stupid.  Under 21? Stupid.  On food stamps?  Stupid.  Work for a living and only get minimum wage?  Stupid.  No college degree?  Stupid.  Only an Associate's you say?  Stupid.  Never got a high school diploma?  Stupid.  GED?  Stupid.  Seriously I could go on and on and on.  The scenarios for being stupid these days is...stupid.   Stupidity sure is receiving a lot of attention lately.  Or is it ignorance?  Sorry I'm stupid...
          To my way of thinking stupidity is, in most instances, a matter of perspective.  What I perceive as being stupid might, and usually does, make perfect sense to some one else.  Perhaps the confusion lies in the definition of stupid itself? If you take the time to read through the definition's on stupid, you will find that, technically, if someone accuses another of being stupid, then perhaps, the person accusing another, or others, of stupidity is worse then stupid?
           Stupid does not imply a lack of education, wisdom, or understanding.  It implies that some one is slow to understand, dull, foolish, does not understand, or maybe is just confused all together.  Lacks wisdom perhaps?  Does it mean that someone is incapable of understanding?  No. So the person who accuses others of being stupid could also be perceived as being stupid by the person or persons who are being called stupid.  May be stupid should be called ignorant instead? OR perhaps stupid is the new noob?

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a newbie, especially a person who is new to an online community and whose online participation and interactions display a lack of skill or knowledge:

          Here's another thought about being stupid!  I once asked someone how they were doing and they said,"well that was a stupid question."  HUH?!?  WTF?!?  When did asking about someone's well being become stupid? Ok I know your down in the dumps, and not feeling so well, but would you have been happier if I came straight out and said, "I really don't give a fuck how you feel but politeness, society, and respect, mostly for myself, and humankind in general, deems that I ask.  Sure I could choose not too but then I think you would still call me stupid for not asking.  So I choose to do the right thing, as I see it, and stupidly ask, how are you."  Stupid...
           OR Buddha forgive you ask someone to explain something to you, like their culture, or religion, or politics.  Watch out!  Most questions along those lines are just stupid, worse than that, depending on the stupid person you are asking, they could also be perceived as...wait for it... racist.  (You thought I was going to say stupid didn't you.) Sigh...  You know sometimes I long for the days where thinking about what we said was easier and not so..stupid.  A lot more seemed to have gotten communicated. Presently if you don't use the right language then you are perceived as stupid.
          Something else I've noticed. The older I get the stupider I get.  The information is still there but sometimes getting to it takes time.  It becomes harder and harder to draw upon short term memory.  Its sad really.  And...yes...stupid.
           What's even sadder is the amount of people who have no tolerance for stupidity but are willing to perpetuate ignorance using Facebook posts, and pics, when they could very simply communicate knowledge and/or wisdom.  While there may be a lot of stupid people out there ignorance is most certainly one of the easiest to cure handicaps.  Why get involved though right?  Its just...stupid. Much stupider to sit back, and bully, and mock stupid people.  Once again I have to point out and ask...is my definition of stupid the same as yours?  Perspective.
          What the heck happened to tolerance?  Kindness? Compassion?  Either someone is ignorant because they don't know any better in which case all it takes is some time, patience, kindness, compassion, and understanding to teach them.  Has communication among humans diminished to the point where a Facebook pic holds more sway over public opinion then the truth? Perhaps someone really cannot help their stupidity in which case you bullying them doesn't help.  It just makes you look... ignorant.  So we not only post pics and information against bullying, but on the exact same page will post a pic about stupidity.  Seriously?  Stupid....
          Our nation already admits to poverty, lack of education, over use, and misuse of medications, bad diets, lack of exercise, just to name a few, all of which contribute to...stupidity.  An awful large number of society out there just doing what they are told; staying on those stupid food stamps, settling for crappy education, and minimum wage. (Sarcasm)  And some of you stupid people out there propagate this with your stupid posts.  tsk tsk tsk  Harsh?  Perhaps.  And not very kind or compassionate either perhaps.  But honest.  And honesty is compassion where it matters most.  Not everyone has a computer at their disposal.  Who is more stupid?  The person who doesn't have mass communication at their finger tips; unaware of the stupidity?  Or someone who has a computer at their disposal and stupidly misuses it?  Ahhh Facebook...stupid.
          The Pith of the Matter is this.  If you research "stupid" there are actually a few thought provoking quotes out there.  Einstien, Oscar Wilde, J.K. Rollings, to name a few.  Intellegent quotes made by intelligent people.  Its Facebook that has, once again, encouraged, supported, and taught people that its ok to discriminate against stupidity.  (Facebook and a couple of politicians eager to gain your vote.)  And make no if ands or buts about it; it is discrimination.  For all of you who get on the stupid ride of stupidity remember, you are promoting, supporting and subscribing to a mass media, monitored, and supported, by persons, and organizations, who's agenda's are to make you think the way they want you to think. Conformity. Advertising. Politics. Its...stupid.  Understand yet?  Or do you need more time to not be so...stupid? Its ok I can wait...I'm stupid too.
          Now go back and read this using definition #6 where ever you read "stupid".  How does this sound to you now?  Perspective. Namaste  Peace out

Jane Austen
“Mary wished to say something very sensible, but knew not how.”
Jane Austen, Pride and Prejudice
 
Oscar Wilde
“Whenever a man does a thoroughly stupid thing, it is always from the noblest motives.”
Oscar Wilde, The Picture of Dorian Gray

J.K. Rowling
“Honestly, if you were any slower, you’d be going backward.”
J.K. Rowling, Harry Potter and the Chamber of Secrets